Egocentrism – It’s the characteristic that defines the personality of those who think that everything turns around them. Usually when everything starts to go wrong for you, the first thing you think is you. Why do things happen to you? You don’t deserve. You did so much for so and so. You were supposed to be far ahead. In short…You, you and you. It’s all you think about, that’s what matters.
This is the problem of many people who just look at their problems instead of looking to themselves and see that they are being egocentric.
That normally takes the person to other problems, principally in regarding to the love life. The selfish person who only thinks about herself is very hard to deal with. She only wants things her way, that the people change for her and thinks that all her mistakes don’t even come close to the mistakes of the others. She is intolerant with somebody else’s mistakes, is always criticizing everything and everyone, and worse, doesn’t have any consideration with anyone else but herself; however she obviously expects consideration from others.
Well, how can someone be happy like this, if herself doesn’t make anyone happy?
For everything we want in life we must give first. There’s no other solution. If you want to be happy, you must make others happy. If you want to be loved, you must love others. If you want to be respected, you must respect first. If you want to be admired, you must admire the others.
I remember a friend of mine who used to complain about her colleagues at work who didn’t have any consideration towards her. “They make gossips in group!” But, as she was making such comments, I would ask myself what kind of friend she was for those people. When we help the others, there’s no way they will treat us like this. On the contrary, they begin to truly loving us, for we didn’t have to give what we have spontaneously given to them – it’s very hard to hate someone who does so much good to us.
Many questions, many doubts, many e-mails of people who write asking for guidance, would be solved if they, at least, understand this little rule, that is no longer a secret for more than 2000 years.
Cristiane Cardoso
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